The best advice in life; at least as I’ve found it, is always the hardest. It’s the rawest, truest, no-hold-barred kind of advice that helps you set things straight, or put them into action. It’s a clear cut path through a dense jungle; it’s the only way to proceed.
Yesterday, I was lucky enough to be on the receiving end of some of this ‘good’ advice. it came after I was dealt an unexpected blow, while wallowing in a moment of doubt and frustration. And I knew it was truthful, honest advice, because it came straight from someone dealing with a version of this feeling in her own world at the same time.
In that moment, I was eternally grateful for the woman who set me back on course.
“In the big scheme, no on cares about 90% of the work you do behind the scenes. Even though we know that’s what determines the likelihood that you’ll be successful. Likelihood…because even if you do everything right and give it your all there’s still no guarantee. That’s why I call it a game; you’re gambling against The House. Those are the people who hold power and influence, whether it’s in the community, or it’s your competition. If they don’t want you to succeed, they’ll make sure you won’t, or at least they’ll sure try.
For the very few who buck the system it’s like hitting the lotto. That’s why you have to remember who you are doing this for, why, and what you’re willing to risk. At the end of the day everyone has their own agenda and will do what they need to do to lessen heir own risk and get ahead. Self preservation.
No matter how much we emphasize community over competition and teamwork, the best advice I ever received (fairly recently, and from another female, I might add) was the knowledge that there’s only one person in the ring taking the rick and receiving the punches. No matter how strong of a team or support system you have, you’re still the one taking the blows. Keep that in mind as you make your decisions and you’ll be doing what’s best for you and for your why.”
Keep moving forward, blazing that trail. Remember your “why” and hold strong to your purpose. Many people won’t understand, and fewer may be on board, but when you find your purpose, go for it with everything you’ve got.